Married But My Mind Cheats!!! Help!

05-07-2007, 02:04 AM

I've been married for 7 years, but I've been with my husband for over
19 years. We JUST recently got back together...I had filed for
divorce,but cancelled it @ the last minute. We were apart for like 1
1/2 years and through that time I dates (b/c I wasn't even dreaming of
getting back with him). I'm trying to make things work but I must
admit that my emotions aren't as strong cause I was done wrong before.
I find myself thinking about someone that I was seeing when we were
apart. Little things (like a song, a picture,a place, etc.) bring
memories of him back in my mind then....HE CALLED!! I found myself
sitting on the phone like a teenage school girl agian, excited that I
was actually on HIS mind. I KNOW this isn't right. This weekend seemed
to be one of the worst in our married life since we've been back
together...I slept on the couch after a dissagreement! I feel REALLY
bad b/c I KNOW thid time my husband IS trying and I'm not all the way
there.I just want to know if I'm the only one that has/is going
through this!!

05-07-2007, 02:40 AM

On May 6, 10:04 pm, jazzy_gemini <jazzy_gemini_1...@yahoo.com> wrote:
> I've been married for 7 years, but I've been with my husband for over
> 19 years. We JUST recently got back together...I had filed for
> divorce,but cancelled it @ the last minute. We were apart for like 1
> 1/2 years and through that time I dates (b/c I wasn't even dreaming of
> getting back with him). I'm trying to make things work but I must
> admit that my emotions aren't as strong cause I was done wrong before.
> I find myself thinking about someone that I was seeing when we were
> apart. Little things (like a song, a picture,a place, etc.) bring
> memories of him back in my mind then....HE CALLED!! I found myself
> sitting on the phone like a teenage school girl agian, excited that I
> was actually on HIS mind. I KNOW this isn't right. This weekend seemed
> to be one of the worst in our married life since we've been back
> together...I slept on the couch after a dissagreement! I feel REALLY
> bad b/c I KNOW thid time my husband IS trying and I'm not all the way
> there.I just want to know if I'm the only one that has/is going
> through this!!

It seems that you posted to the wrong newsgroup.

Maybe you want to post your message at alt.support.marriage instead.

alt.visa.us.marriage-based is about immigration (in the context of a
marriage), whereas alt.support.marriage is about marriage relationship
advices, which seems to be what you're looking for.