jeneticallymodified

hi,
i'm confused about some of the details of the family class immigration process and how they apply to me, and would like some help please.
i'm a british citizen currently in canada on a 6 month 'holiday' visit, and am looking into applying to stay here perminantly. I've been in a relationship with a canadian citizen for the past 3 years, and have visited him several times, love him to pieces (and yes, i read the FAQ's and know that you'd prefer i didn't post things like this, but thats the sum of it, sorry!) and i'm in a position where i really want to stay here, but am having a lot of trouble understanding my elligability to do so, and working out how to apply properly. (i don't want to screw it up!)
I've been looking at the cic website- and as i'm not particularily skilled work wise, and can't afford to go to school here, and have no relatives here, my only option would to be to apply under the 'family class' option, as a 'common law' or 'conjugal' partner. but i have the following issues:
to apply as a 'common law partner' i need to have been here for a whole year in a row. I'm only allowed a six month stay at a time as a british citizen though. if i apply for a 6 month extension to my current stay, i either need to make up a really good reason, unrelated to my boyfriend, for me to stay another 6 months, and confirm that i was intent on leaving at the end of the extension (which i really don't want to do as it would be pretty much lying and i can't think of an 'unrelated to boyfriend' valid reason to stay, that would satisfy them) or should i apply for the extension saying 'i want to stay another 6 months please so that i'll be elligable to apply to stay as a common law partner at the end of the 12 month total' which i think would go down like a lead balloon. am i wrong- would this work?
alternatively, i could apply for the 6 month extension, (saying i want it so i can use the added length of stay to apply to stay forever as a common law partner) then upon it being refused, apply to stay as a conjugal partner, using the refusal of an extension as '...evidence of an impediment to living together (e.g., evidence of refused long-term stays in each other’s country).'
is this what i'm supposed to do? be refused a 6 month extension, and then use the refusal to apply to stay here as a conjugal partner?
i'm really loathed to get married just to 'get into the country'- i love my man, but when we get married we want to do it properly, when the time is right, and not to satisfy immigration of the validity of our relationship. we're also concerned that they might refuse my application as a spouse after i'd got married, if, say, they didn't believe we were a genuine couple, and then i'd be sent home, in a worse situation -married, but living on another continent to my husband, and refused permission to remain in canada.
should i try and get a job in a supermarket or something and apply for a work permit, and then use the job as a reason to extend my stay for another six months, thus bringing my total stay to a year, and making me elligable as a common law partner? would that work? i don't really want to do that, but i'd do it if i had to!
i'm really worried that i'll screw something up on an application, or apply for the wrong thing, and then be sent home and not allowed back here, and it's breaking my heart to keep having to leave my man and go back to england, then work my ass off over there and save enough money to come back, when very part of me knows i should be here with him permenantly. if only giving a statement like that to CIC would enable me to stay forever!
any suggestions on what i should or could do, would be really greatfully received.
thanks,
jen

RoyK

You are a congucal partner period. Submit as that, read the guide its all there. You will never get a work permit to work in a supermarket. It is simple just read the guide. You can also read the manuals (Blue Boxes) Policy and Regulations then Manuals then Overseas Processing (FASTER) then OP family class
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